I am “overly sensitive”, and proud of it! Yup, you read that right, not only do I admit to being “overly sensitive”, but I am proud of it. Why? Because I have come to accept it as who I am.
Over the last year or so I have noticed some VERY mean spirited facebook pages pop up with one intent, and one intent only; they strive to bring humor to some by means of putting others down. I am sure most of you know what type of pages I am talking about and I would imagine many of you have seen them and I can guarantee some of those reading this blog are part of those pages. While it is in fact all fun and games, fun and games end when someone gets hurt. And regardless of what any of us thinks some people are more sensitive than others. And if you are like me, you are overly sensitive.
Being overly sensitive means criticism isn’t taken as easily. Being overly sensitive means I worry about what people think of me. Being overly sensitive means I have a wide range of emotions. Being overly sensitive, it’s not a choice, it’s a state of being.
In no way can I help who I am. All I can do is try to understand myself better to be sure who I am does not negatively effect others. But sometimes it does.
I honestly can not for the life of me understand why people even frequent these negative pages let alone post on them. And goodness, why would someone even create one? I find it funny that the people who “run” these pages often make fun of people for being on the computer all the time yet somehow manage to update their page dozens of times per day. I mean really, what do they think, do they think that Comedy Central or Dave Chappelle are going to catch wind of their abusive jokes and give them a shot at making a living by making fun of other people?
Some people have referred to the disgustingly negative pages as pages that promote cyber bullying. While I am not familiar enough with the law to make that accusation, I do know that posting pics of an individual or calling them out in public with the only intent as to put them down, those things can cause people harm. We found that out first hand when ex Rutgers college student Dharun Ravi was convicted in a case where his exploitation of another student led to the suicide of that student.
Now some may say that the case I just mentioned is totally not the same thing, but what happens if someone who is completely and totally worn thin takes their own life after being subjected to harrassment via these God-awful facebook pages? Afterall, specifically targeting people who are overly sensitive or slandering them by posting pictures that paint them in a negative light, who knows what effect it will have on them.
It is my opinion that those people who are running these pages, they are absolutely nothing but bullies who hide behind a computer themselves. Seriously, instead of taking pictures of someone at the store in secret, grow a pair and ask the person if it’s OK. Instead of regularly sharing your opinion via a facebook page on how dependent someone is on their spouse, show up at your next Garrison meeting and let the whole world know your true identity and how much it disgusts you. I think something that is overlooked is the fact that should these mean people who run these pages ever publicly say who they are, we all know that career advancement for their own spouse may be hindered.
When I think of these folks who are running these pages, I can’t help but to feel sorry for them, to be honest. Why? Because it shows their character. It shows they have nothing positive to add to this world. It shows that their children are going to grow up to be just like them. And at some point, the shoe will be on the other foot. At some point, karma is going to come around and bite these people in the ass. I only wish I could be there to see it.
Now if you are one of those who follow these pages, I want to ask you to reconsider. I know many of my personal facebook friends follow these pages, and honestly, it does make me think less of them. I seriously doubt anyone would publicly say the things they say on the internet. Who out of all those page admins will walk up to one of us on the street and put us down? I know one of the more popular page admins of these terrible pages lives here at Ft Riley, so I would invite her to get out from behind her computer and show up at the next network meeting for the installation on July 12 and share with all of us about this awesome page she created. I am sure our Garrison Commander and all of the other department heads would LOVE to hear about this resource. Afterall, does she have anything to be ashamed of?
Putting someone down for being “overly sensitive” is like making fun of someone with a stutter. Taking a picture and posting it online in order to make fun of someone else, well, I would guess that your crap has a bit of an odor to it as well.
A while back I wrote a blog that goes hand in hand with this one. It was titled “Don’t Feed The Beast”. I would encourage you to go check it out by clicking here. I am sure I will get torn apart for writing this blog and become the next target, but what the heck…. I know where I stand with those who matter. And I am proud to be “overly sensitive” and outspoken.
Two last things…..
1) For those of us who are disgusted by these pages, just remember, you can’t fix stupid.
2) I may be “overly sensitive”, but I would gladly choose that instead of being like those who run these pages who are just downright insensitive (add expletive here).