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Tag Archives: Coping We go through many changes in life. Our Army life brings its own changes. We move and move often. Our Soldier deploys. Our Soldier comes home. We have children. Our children grow up. Our children leave home. Our Soldier retires. We experience some ups and downs. We have joy, laughter and sadness, anger and frustration. … It seems like every where I turn lately, there’s discussion about the topic of “connectedness,” that is, how engaged {or how lonely} we may feel as military spouses. Whether it’s on message boards that I follow, or in Facebook discussions, or even in face-to-face conversations that I have with spouses new to our Post, I…  One of the things that I enjoy most as an Army Wife Network team member is helping spouses with their questions. Answering what our team calls “field problems” is something Tara and I started doing from the get-go, before Army Wife Network was even conceived. It remains one of my primary tasks today. If…  We are told to stay busy, have a routine and socialize while our spouses are deployed. Life goes on and you have to be active in the new normal for your life. I’ve told other spouses these things. They listened and they thrived. Sure, there were some tough days but they made it through. They… I think most of us have our moments. The true strength of an Army wife is finding the way to get through those moments. You just described how I felt during our deployments. Hang in there! Hugs to you. Remember to ask for help when you need it. I’ve been there. When my husband deployed I fell apart because he is my rock. I made the lists, but couldn’t execute them. I had a hard time “keeping busy” and withdrew. The intense amount of stress leading up to a deployment could make anyone crumble and then they leave and you have no one to help you cope (or so if feels). I’m sorry you are struggling, but know that we all do and that it’s ok to not always be the strong military wife that the rest of the world expects us to be, even if you feel you can only do that in private. We are all allowed to fall apart sometimes. <3 Just know that you are not alone in this, we are all here to support ya. I’ve been there. When my husband deployed I fell apart because he is my rock. I made the lists, but couldn’t execute them. I had a hard time “keeping busy” and withdrew. The intense amount of stress leading up to a deployment could make anyone crumble and then they leave and you have no one to help you cope (or so if feels). I’m sorry you are struggling, but know that we all do and that it’s ok to not always be the strong military wife that the rest of the world expects us to be, even if you feel you can only do that in private. We are all allowed to fall apart sometimes. <3 Just know that you are not alone in this, we are all here to support ya. I swear the days leading up to deployment are so much worse then the actual deployment itself. I have done two back to back deployments each of which were 13 months or more. The weeks leading up to him leaving were horrible. Once he was gone I went into a sort of “nesting. God Bless each & every one of you! God is Good! Keep your faith! I understand how you feel completely! My hubby is getting ready for his first deployment and it absolutely kills me. We just moved and I’ve got my little lists of things to get done around the house and out of the house. I try my best to keep busy so that I don’t focus on what’s going on, but then there are the days when reality hits me like a ton of bricks. Days when no matter how hard I try to remain strong all I want to do is fall apart. My husband is my rock too and I’m absolutely terrified of him not being there at the end of the day. I try to be strong and make it through, but sometimes I just don’t feel like I can be strong without him. It sounds weird, but I’m so glad to know not the only one who feels this way. He’s still in training, so I haven’t had a deployment yet, but I know exactly how you feel. I constantly put on my “happy Jenna” face and act like everything’s okay. Like he’s not far away, like I haven’t NOT seen his face for months, like I can handle going to school, to work and hang out with my friends that have no clue what I’m going through without him…. but man is it rough. I lost a lot of my motivation to much more than the minimum (except for school) and my friends would all look at me funny when we’d be hanging out and I’d get quiet all of a sudden, not realizing how different it feels to have to everything on my own. Plus, I feel like they all got tired of hearing about how much I missed him, seeing me cry in class when I missed his phone calls, or my short fuse from all the stress and tension. There were many, many days where all I wanted to do was lay around in bed and go numb, but somehow I dragged myself outta bed each day. He’s coming home in almost a week and it’s absolutely crazy to think I’ve made it through these past 6 months. I honestly don’t know how I did it. I just did. Awe, K! You got us – and me! Call me anytime! We’ll get through this journey together, even though we are states apart! An interesting discussion is worth comment. Excellent read, I just passed this onto a friend who was doing  For June 2012′s newsletter, just click HERE! Our downloadable newsletters are in a printable format in order that you may distribute–easily–to your spouse clubs, family groups, your chain of command and concern, and others within your Army Wife Network. They are two-sided, single sheets, which offer the best resources, URLs, and articles we gather each… |
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Kowanda, you sure hit the nail on the head with this one. I don’t know what I would do without my chosen family. I’ll keep singing.